Family and Relationship
10 Ways to Keep Your Man Happy
There are many articles in female magazines that call for girls to become someone other than themselves in order to put a smile on their partners’ face. The truth is that with us blokes, sometimes it takes even less than what you think to make us happy. We are not superficial, cold-hearted aliens from Mars and a small gesture can go a long way even if we may not always show it at the time.
If you girls out there want to know what will truly put a smile on a man’s face, read on for a guy’s perspective on what really counts in a relationship and this doesn’t matter which race a man belongs, we are all men.
1. Always ask questions
We guys want to feel like you care about our day too! How was your day? What can I get for you?, What was the score from your game? A lot of men like to hear themselves talk, and nothing is better than having an appreciative audience.
2. Spice it up
Nothing is more boring than predictability and routine. Unless your bloke is a rock star, chances are he will hold a nine-to-five job like the rest of us. As soon as we knock off work, it is nice to have a little break in our daily routine once in a while. So instead of slumping in front of the TV to watch The Simpsons, it is nice to get a surprise. It can be a home- cooked meal by candlelight or drinks by the river, whatever you plan, it is nice to have a little break from the norm with you taking the initiative for once. Being spontaneous and fun will always make your man smile and be happy.
3. Let loose
I know it sounds silly but do you remember when you were a teenager? Having drinks with your boyfriend/ girlfriend and getting fun and crazy. As we get older, sometimes we forget how to let loose and have fun, we become bound by schedules, deadlines, our fear of wrinkles and eyebags etc, and we lose that spontaneous streak where we just let our hair down and have fun. Having a drink with your partner can help you relax and reconnect with the old times. One rule: Keep all mobile devices away during your time together, there is nothing more irritating than having your partner constantly checking his handphone while you are trying to unwind as a couple.
4. Let him hang with the boys
Do not be overly jealous. You fell in love with him because he was unique and had a great life. You are part of it now but do not take away his original life. If you want him to stay happy you will encourage his freedom. Now don’t be a pushover, set your ground rules and joke with him about it. Say things like “if your going to the strip club , I have some singles in my purse.” He will love you for that.
5. Touch is very important, don’t be clingy but massages are a must
We like little touches, from a cuddle to a brush of the fingertips. It makes us feel loved and wanted. As men, we are not experts at reading body language so little touches let us know that you love us and all is okay between us.
6. Never go to bed angry.
Cliché, yes, but true. A well-rested husband is a happy husband—it’s much better to go to bed next to someone that you can curl up next to, rather than someone you must put pillows in between.
7. On that note, be sure to remain your own person.
It is vital in every relationship to not define yourself in terms of your significant other. Get a few hobbies. Better yet, join a club. Once again, girls with lives are almost always more attractive than those whose lives consist only of time with their boyfriends.
This seems to be a recent phenomen. One of the biggest problems girls have nowadays is that many are on some weird diet at one time or other, be it vegan, Atkins, South Beach etc. All this dietary restrictions make meal times a real hassle. There is nothing sexier than a woman who enjoys food and actually eats at meal times! Sure, we want a lady with a sexy figure but that’s where exercise should come in, starving yourself skinny just isn’t sexy or cool, at least from a man’s point of view. In fact, it is disturbing to see you sucking on a celery stick while we are tucking voraciously into our ribs.
9. Buy gifts.
Gift buying should not be reserved for men. Most men I know would love to receive a gift from a girl. It shows thought and care that you have bothered to pick something out for us. We men are little boys inside and we like to be surprised and appreciated at times.
10. Be Happy.
No man wants a miserable, boring girl. Smiling is contagious, positive attitude is needed to make your man content. Love him and show him you love him. Effort goes a long way, and it may seem like a lot of work but if you do these things then in return he will give effort and make you happy.
I hope I was able to shed some light on what is important to a guy from a guy’s point of view. Sometimes we forget how important it is to put effort in relationships. So let’s turn that frown upside down and let’s dance.