Family and Relationship
Text Messages from a White Guy (and What to Reply)
TEXT: “Send me a pic.”
If this is coming from your boyfriend it means that he misses you. He wants to know what you’re up to. He’s also secretly hoping you’ll show something naughty. If this is someone you recently started sleeping with then he wants to see some skin. He’s likely had a few drinks to embolden him and he’s definitely horny.
In my experience guys never send a text like this if they think they will see the girl that night. If they are going to do that, they can wait and see what they want to see in the flesh. So this guy knows he’s not going to see you tonight and is seeking some validation that he’s still awesome and can get some (even though he probably just struck out with a girl sitting next to him). If you haven’t even slept with the guy texting you he’s a creeper and this is a mass text. See last response; he’s throwing the hook in the water to see who will bite.
REPLY: If it’s your boyfriend? Send him something PG-13 if you’re out with the girls. If you’re at home and he’s out of state send him something more NC-17 (assuming you have had the “If you show these to anyone I will kill you” talk). If it’s someone you’ve recently started sleeping with and you trust them I recommend an old classic: you in a towel fresh out of the shower leads the imagination but doesn’t overdo it. If you don’t trust them there’s no harm in making them send a pic and seeing what happens.
If you’re not the sort of girl who does pics, don’t do it. Guys shouldn’t think they can make these demands anyway. You don’t need to text that to him, but you can freely ignore a text like this and they won’t get mad; they may in fact get more intrigued. If you haven’t even slept with this guy just tell him he’s a creeper. Some guys really need to hear that; you’ll be doing a service for future women who would otherwise receive this same text from the same dude.